Birthday Texts From an Ex

September 24, 2019 by Cazey Williams in Cazey's Column, Humor, life lessons, Life In Your 20's

This week is an ex’s birthday. Three months ago, we agreed to never speak again. We have made similar oaths in the past and broken them. This time feels slightly more permanent if only because we no longer live in the same city.

For the past seven days, I have brewed over breaking our silence to send a short, courteous “Happy birthday!” After all, while we swore it was over, we also assured ourselves that no one was mad, this was just healthiest. Insert eye roll emoji.

By these rules, I should not send a message on her birthday. Also, according to my pride and dignity, I should not reach out. Fittingly, my pride is one of my biggest prides—and arguably a large contributing factor to the demise of our relationship / friendship / whatever you want to call it, which fuels suspicion that I should.

Generation Z and a New Dating Culture

May 10, 2019 by astoldoverbrunch in Dating, life lessons, Life In Your 20's, Guest Post

Passionate, open-minded, and digitized – the hallmarks of Generation Z. Of course, the research is still new and incomplete. But they are bubbling toward adulthood now, and we are beginning to take note of their “voices,” behaviors, and, yes, demands. They are definitely not shy about making connections. And this is refreshing.

In fact, we have learned that Gen Z’ers will connect will their peers all over the planet, share their passions and goals, support one another, and motivate each other. Further, they see no lines of demarcation based on race, ethnicity, or gender identity. In their eyes, justice and equality are common rights for all. They openly discuss these topics and take public stances on them, especially on social media. And, as we have recently seen, they will gather and loudly voice their demands until they get action.

Swiping Right to Facebook Friends

January 03, 2019 by Cazey Williams in Dating, Cazey's Column, Humor, Life In Your 20's, life lessons

Lately, I’ve found myself on Bumble. Despite assertions that I am a happy single (which is relatively true), I also find myself seeking validation and attention like any self-involved twenty-something via a cultivated dating profile. Who thinks I’m attractive and witty? Are they also attractive and witty?

Bumble, like the majority of dating apps, revolves around swiping to others’ profiles - right if I think they’re photogenic, intelligent, and have some career trajectory; left if less than cute, ultra-conservative, or have some predisposition for puppy-eared Snapchat filter selfies. (Seriously, girls - maybe guys too - don’t do that crap.)

The Case of the Mistaken Relationship

September 25, 2018 by Cazey Williams in Cazey's Column, Dating, Humor, Life In Your 20's, life lessons

I recently had to plan a dinner for an important figurehead at my university. At the last minute some seats opened up so I asked my friend Liza to come. Liza and I have been close friends for several years.

My other friend, Peter, signed up weeks before and usually was at these sorts of functions anyway. Liza knew less of the people so she stuck by my side at the beginning of the dinner. When Peter arrived, I introduced them. Soon Liza spotted another acquaintance and slipped away to chat.

My Love-Hate Relationship With Love

June 26, 2018 by Cazey Williams in Dating, Life In Your 20's, life lessons

A few weeks ago, I woke up on seven hours of sleep ready to conquer life, the world, and Mars without a drop of coffee. I remember thinking, wow, this is what real sleep feels like.

I had gone to bed the night before somewhat early, but considerably tipsy, after an evening spent with an attractive friend of a friend. Nothing spectacular happened, but I discovered I even left a fully made sandwich on my countertop before going to bed (ham, no less!). I scarfed the sandwich down and skipped down the sidewalk, practically singing bonjour to every human and squirrel I passed.

Netflix and Kill: Where Is Your Chill?

February 08, 2016 by Cazey Williams in Cazey's Column, Humor, Life In Your 20's, life lessons

At brunch recently, my friend relayed the tale of her roommate who met a guy off Tinder and then proceeded to move him into their apartment. The honeymoon lovers met on a Saturday afternoon, had a wonderful date (apparently), and the next evening the roommate invited him over. He only brought the clothes on his back and an 18-pack of beer. He didn’t leave for the next four days.

I guess we should have been suspicious when he brought so much beer.

Youth, Tinder, and All of the Above

December 16, 2015 by Cazey Williams in Cazey's Column, Humor, Life In Your 20's, life lessons, Dating

I preface this post by alerting the reader to two things:

1.) I look younger than my age.

2.) I often have a sense of a humor that no one else gets. Or at least they laugh a lot less loud than I do.

On the former, I have a brother who is five and a half years younger. When I return home, the lady at our local Chinese restaurant inevitably asks, “Are you the young one or the old one?”

What Happens on Tinder Doesn't Stay on Tinder

October 21, 2015 by Cazey Williams in Cazey's Column, Dating, Humor, Life In Your 20's, Social Media

I’m a passive participant on the dating scene. What that means is (at least by my definition), I maintain several dating profiles, but I rarely message anyone unless they’re Aphrodite incarnate. Still, I won’t deny you can find me swiping right and left late at night.

However, if someone messages me, I tend to respond. Unless you show red flags or resemble a bore.

The People at Bars: A Bouncer's Perspective

June 19, 2015 by Will Woznicki in Life In Your 20's

I’m a bouncer at a college bar. While that might sound like a fun job, it can be quite the headache when people do not want to act their age. In my three years I’ve worked at two out of the three bars on campus. Most of my job is just people watching and making sure that everyone is behaving appropriately. It’s a different perspective of the bar when you’re standing two feet above the crowd. However, I’ve come to find that there are certain types of people that I see at bars:

Texts You Probably Shouldn't Send After Midnight via Elite Daily

February 04, 2015 by Cazey Williams in Cazey's Column, Dating, Humor, Life In Your 20's, life lessons, Uncategorized

Happy Hump Day, everyone! So funny story, earlier today I was going to submit something to Elite Daily when I saw a piece I submitted several weeks ago had the word "Published" on it.

Come again?

I click. And AHH, I got published! So please go check out my piece! (And share with your friends if you feel inclined!)

Synopsis:

We've all been there. We don't even have to be drunk. Maybe something popped up on our newsfeed. But it is now 1 AM, you are lying in bed, and you are composing myriad text messages that you could send and win back over an ex or reveal your true feelings to that close friend. And even if it's a totally innocuous message, you really can't send it until the light of the day without seeming abrupt, creepy, or deranged - and you know the desire to send that message will dissipate by noon.

Here's the link again:

http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/texts-probably-shouldnt-send-midnight/898482/

And if you like this, you can view my other Elite Daily piece here or Sara's own piece.